{"id":716,"date":"2011-04-12T04:53:56","date_gmt":"2011-04-12T10:53:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/?p=716"},"modified":"2020-04-03T08:26:59","modified_gmt":"2020-04-03T14:26:59","slug":"honor-is-about-you-no-one-else","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/?p=716","title":{"rendered":"Honor Is About You, No One Else"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Honor is a funny thing. Most people think they have it, however, very few truly do. At one time to be \u201cA Man of Honor\u201d was a way of life. Most people, man or woman, existed where their word was as \u201cgood as gold\u201d or, as I like to say, \u201cMy handshake is better than any contract.\u201d Folks would have rather died than not be true to their statements. That was evident by the duels that occurred between men just to defend their honor. Being a person of honor was something to hang your hat on. Your integrity was your calling card. So what happened? Where did things go awry?<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know the exact answer, but I think that people have allowed technicalities to sneak into their modes of operation. You know, excuses that have validity on some level, but in the spirit of honor, they are just ways to weasel out of a commitment. I am often disappointed in people because they look for angles or \u201couts\u201d to renege on their obligations. I am speaking of those times when folks take the \u201ceasy out\u201d.  I was in a meeting a couple of years ago negotiating a deal with some high-powered and respected businessmen. They wanted me to agree to terms that favored them, didn\u2019t hurt me, but put one of my partners at a disadvantage. Without getting into the details, they basically wanted me to dilute the interest of the other person. Legally and ethically, believe it or not, it was an accepted practice. But it just didn\u2019t feel like the right thing for me to do. I told them I would give up more of my stake as opposed to their plan, but that did not satisfy them. They thought I was nuts; perhaps in this day and age of business dealings, I am.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t agree to the deal, and lost a significant amount of monetary gain. Maybe I was foolish, and perhaps I made a business blunder by not following the standard practice. But, in my opinion, just because something is \u201cstandard\u201d doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s right. Just because there are technicalities that give you an out, that doesn\u2019t mean you should run for the exits. Saving your own skin has become a dirty practice in our society. Ok, I\u2019m preaching a bit here, but I do so knowing that I\u2019m not perfect and that I have made mistakes. Like most folks, I have not always made the right decisions, and I regret those mistakes. But I do have this going for me: when I say I am going to do something, I do everything in my power to make it happen, even if I have to sacrifice a bit of myself. I don\u2019t intend for this post to be self-serving, although I\u2019m sure some will view it that way; it\u2019s not about me, I\u2019m just the instrument to make this point.<\/p>\n

Do what you say you are going to do. Forget about the technicalities. Live your life in such a way that when you get up in the morning and look in the mirror, you feel good about what you see. Remember, you may be able to fool others, but you can\u2019t fool yourself. That\u2019s exactly the point. Honor is not about other people. Honor is about you.<\/em><\/strong> It doesn\u2019t matter what others do. It doesn\u2019t matter what they think of you. What matters is how you<\/em> feel about you. Always remember, your word is your honor. If you live with this in mind, you may not become a billionaire, but I promise you will be happy with yourself.<\/p>\n

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Honor is a funny thing. Most people think they have it, however, very few truly do. At one time to be \u201cA Man of Honor\u201d was a way of life. Most people, man or woman, existed where their word was as \u201cgood as gold\u201d or, as I like to say, \u201cMy handshake is better than […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,190],"tags":[45,61,27,20,19,31,43,44],"class_list":["post-716","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-leadership","category-relationship-architecture","tag-business-relationships","tag-honor","tag-inspiration","tag-inspirational","tag-leadership-2","tag-positive-thinking","tag-relationship-architect","tag-relationship-architecture"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/716","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=716"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/716\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1994,"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/716\/revisions\/1994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=716"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=716"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=716"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}