{"id":1481,"date":"2013-12-09T11:13:03","date_gmt":"2013-12-09T17:13:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/?p=1481"},"modified":"2020-04-02T09:17:05","modified_gmt":"2020-04-02T15:17:05","slug":"dont-let-fun-dictate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/louimbriano.com\/?p=1481","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t Let Fun Dictate"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>I recently spent time with a great group of friends, and we had a grand old time sharing stories, having dinner, drinking wine and really having a lot of laughs. It got me thinking about the close relationship I have with this group and how these friendships compare to my business relationships. The most glaring revelation is how drastically different they are. I profess all the time about building unbreakable relationships, but there has to be a clear distinction among the categories of relationships you have.<\/p>\n

The group that Patricia (my friend of 29 years and wife of 21 years) and I were hanging out with is a tight-knit group. Many of the folks I\u2019ve known for over 25 years. Some I have known for 38 years, and I\u2019m only 48. The manner in which you can approach these friends is so different from the way you can chat with \u201cbusiness friends.\u201d Even though you believe the relationship is solid, there are clear classifications and levels of relationships. It\u2019s important to know who fits where and to be cognizant of how you engage with folks on different levels.<\/p>\n

At one time in my life, I thought that the best way to build a network was to treat everybody the same \u2013 as a close friend. That\u2019s just wrong, and I was foolish to think of it that way. The fact is, some folks just don\u2019t want to be your friend. They may have to work with you, deal with you, and interact with you because of specific obligations, but that doesn\u2019t mean they want you as their best buddy. And guess what?  There\u2019s nothing wrong with that. We are all so consumed about what the perfect relationships are that we sometimes lose site of what, more importantly, the appropriate <\/em>relationships are. I, too, have made this mistake in the past.<\/p>\n

However, this being said, although varying classifications of business relationships exist, if you separate folks into buckets, that could be an even bigger mistake.  I\u2019m sure you possess relationships that you consider strictly business. They are not your friends, they don\u2019t care to be your friends, and quite frankly, you feel the same way. No harm, no foul. You treat them respectfully and interact with them in a pure working relationship, and that\u2019s where it ends.  You, right now, are comfortable with that approach. But here comes the potential pitfall.<\/p>\n

Just because you do not view<\/em> them as a friend, doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s not a valuable relationship to have in business. Sometimes folks equate \u201cfriend\u201d as good, and \u201cnon-friend\u201d as bad. It\u2019s really not that simple. You still have to invest time with these folks beyond the pleasantries of the weather and the score of last night\u2019s game. You have to make sure not to ignore them or discount their thoughts just because you don\u2019t classify them as friends. Often, because folks don\u2019t connect on a personal level, they don\u2019t invest the same time into each other, and tend to migrate toward those with whom they have more in common. This is a crucial mistake. Although you do not want to treat these folks as close personal friends, that doesn\u2019t alleviate you from the importance of investing time into the relationship. This is a natural method of operating \u2013 but you have to stop conforming to what you know and are comfortable with.<\/p>\n

Regardless of personal preferences, all business relationships should be approached with the same effort and dedication, regardless of the obvious common interests. Keep these points in mind to assist in your efforts:<\/p>\n

1)     The lack of initial commonality should be a great indicator for you to work harder at building that relationship.<\/p>\n

2)     Don\u2019t let laziness lead you to avoidance of a particular relationship.<\/p>\n

3)     Constantly think about how to build commonality.<\/p>\n

4)     Even though you can\u2019t treat these relationships in the manner you would treat your closest friendship, that doesn\u2019t mean there is not value in the relationship.<\/p>\n

5)     Don\u2019t let fun dictate which relationship gets more attention.<\/p>\n

6)     View all business relationships for having the potential for growth, and don\u2019t let valuable ones get away just because they appear not to fit you.<\/p>\n

7)     Don\u2019t cut corners. Spend time building all relationships that make up your network.<\/p>\n

These are just a few points that you should think about before you avoid investing in a potential relationship. If you pay attention, you will have much more success in building a larger, more solid network. And let\u2019s face it, your success is not about your net worth, it\u2019s about the size and quality of your network.<\/p>\n

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